Despite what would likely be an extreme demand for such a product, we know that a universal, fool-proof manual for life does not exist. If it did, I’m sure my copy would still be on backorder.
Throughout my life, I always tried to do the “right thing.” I’ve put others first and done my best to make those I love happy. In doing so, I had forgotten about myself. Although I am deeply in love with my husband and do not regret marrying him for one moment, I realized that I lost a sense of my own identity in the years that we have been together. This circumstance is by no means his fault either. It is no one’s fault but my own. I can’t help but wonder, if someone had warned me about giving up that part of myself, would I now be a more confident and self-aware individual?
Unfortunately, I’m not alone in this self-induced smothering of one’s identity. I only hope I may help others realize that it’s never too late to rediscover who you were, to be the person your partner fell in love with. After all, if you don’t know who you are, how can anyone love the real you?
My quest to regain a sense of identity began with the creation of a bucket list. I’m not the girl I was in high school, but if I want to figure out who I am, I know that I will have to try things that exist outside of the comfort zone I am now used to.
If I could offer any advice for starting your own quest, it would be:
*Consider the activities you’ve been neglecting that used to bring you pleasure.
*Create a list of things you’ve never tried but always wanted to, then determine which are the easiest to achieve in the short-term.
*Make a pact with your significant other to never stop having fun; try new things, be spontaneous, and never settle for ordinary.
*Motivate and support one another, and set goals both individually and as a team.
*Don’t be afraid to look silly or to fail; bad experiences build as much character as the good.
I wish you the best of luck…
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